7 Aspects Towards Life Enrichment & Enhancement

A Life Coach gets to meet different personalities, one thing being common in them; they are unique.

Coaching impacts both client and the coach. Both learn valuable lessons in the entire journey. In my life coaching journey, I worked on a framework which covers most of the aspects of leading an enhanced and enriched life.

Everyone wants to extract maximum value from his or her current situation. The desire to do things beyond comfort level and regular boundaries give an adrenal rush. However, routine work, travel, family, social commitments make this difficult to achieve. Many of us, don’t even get to know, what we want, or what our goal or Purpose in life is.

Based on my experience, here are seven aspects which if in control, can make you experience an enhanced and enriched life.

Emotional Intelligence: 

Our emotions are important to us, they are the source of our inner feelings. They push us to take actions. However, emotions can make us behave and act irrationally, which can make other people uncomfortable or detached. That is why we need emotional intelligence.

EI is a set of skills that enable you to recognise and manage emotions, both yours and other people

Many of the decisions including business decisions and choices are made by our feelings. EI empowers you to understand your emotions, fears, strengths, and mental blocks. It creates the pathway to be in control of self, work, personal situations and generates empathy.

Positive Thinking:

Positive Thinking brings a lot of power and energy to self and can be learnt through continuous practice. The positive thinkers are focused and are aware of what they want; they look out for the ways of achieving their goals or making their dreams a reality. They spark energy as they have something to look forward.

Positive thinkers try out various ways to reach their destination and appear confident in achieving their goals.

Ever wondered about people, who can do more and give back to the world with limited resources in hand. They know how to kick in the face of negativity. Keeping a positive nature and thinking can enable empathetic nature and result in taking positive actions in life.

Relationship Wellness: 

Managing relationships are one of the most complicated things. Be it personal relationships or professional ones; one needs to handle the relationship portfolio with care.

An excellent relationship brings joy, happiness, satisfaction and delight. Be it relationship with parents, siblings, life partner, friends, Co-workers or boss, if not managed can bring difficult times to one’s life.

People quit their jobs because of a bad relationship with their bosses or Co-workers. This is one of the top reasons for quitting a job according to the latest surveys. Due to this, they also lose the future opportunities to work with them.

People are loyal to other people or positive experiences than to a brand.

Professional Wellness:

This is a two-way street. When someone takes up an offer from a company, the risk is at both ends. Is the person taking up the job or planning a career in the company? Can the company provide the career, the aspirant wants?

It is important that a person knows what s/he wants out his/ her professional life. It does not have to coincide with the education a person gets neither with what others are doing. Professional decisions are as personal as personal choices are. A person can be happy with an average work/ job or aspire to be at the greatest heights in any field of work.

Once a person internalises emotional intelligence, positive thinking, relationship management; the chances of achieving professional happiness, wellness and balance are much higher.

Financial Wellness:

Money, it makes the world go round whether it is for family, for business, buying a home, taking a vacation or daily purchases. Financial success in the game of life is vital and crucial. Money management is not a daily or a weekly routine. We see the bills at the end of the month or on a due date, and wonder, how did that happen? Due to this many people realise the importance of saving through trial-and-error method, which can be stressful in the long run. Money management is not taught to us anywhere in school or college. Most of us, just learn it by ourselves or through a friend in financial services. Happiness through money is achievable when we give a close look at our money management practices.

Physical Fitness:

Having experience of my own, from the couch to a half marathon runner, I realised and appreciate the benefits of being fit. Exercise is not part of our routine; people take it as a tedious “good to have ” kind of thing. As children, we are not taught, that exercise is as important as dental and personal hygiene. Many people find it’s worth at a much later stage, to either delay the health issues or to fight existing health problems.

Lifelong Learning: 

Finally, the last aspect is – never stop learning. In failures, if a person learns something and not repeat the cause of failure, at the end it is a success. In success, the learning is to hold on to the success mantra. If you observe enough, there are plenty of opportunities to learn from everyday conversations, people you meet, the TV series or a movie you watch, a book you read. Knowledge is power, and it has no bounds to the end.

With these steps and little formable habits, one can feel the difference in the way of life and experience the richness in whatever you do.

What are your thoughts on these aspects? Which one would you like to embrace? Do leave your thoughts in the comments section.

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10 Life Lessons to be Happy & Successful in your 30s

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Last week I celebrated my 36th Birthday. A day before my birthday I told my husband and friends, I don’t want to do anything special this time. Anyway, it comes every year, and it’s like any other day. But on the day of my birthday, I was excited with the thought of being in this beautiful world since last 36 years.

Right from the day of my birth till today, it was a joint effort of so many lovely people, my family, friends, colleagues, managers and a lot of other people, including friends in the virtual world who have made me what I am today.

I felt a sense of gratitude. I looked forward to the day ahead.  I had ample time at home to swim through the memories of my previous birthdays and saw old photos to reminisce them, giving myself strong nostalgia. I realised that I have changed a lot after my 30th birthday and life has made better sense to me than it did in my younger days.

Things I did in my 30s challenged me in a way that my future looks much brighter.

Although there are things to learn each day, I am sharing a few chosen life lessons which made my life far better and balanced. I am sharing those with you, thinking those might benefit you too.

Reduce Unhealthy Habits

We all have our share of unhealthy habits even though we know that they cause permanent harm in exchange for short-lived excitement and intoxication. So while you can save your health getting worsened, try to reduce smoking, drinking alcohol & eating junk food, if not able to quit. I can assure you, you will sleep better and also save money for better things.

Start and Enjoy Exercising

I had started running when I was 32. I never did any exercise or indulged in any sports in my earlier years, so I was glad I picked up running. I have completed few half marathons. I now feel as energetic as I felt at 30. I took a couple of years to incorporate exercise into my daily routine; I am happy I started exercising at the right time if not late. Exercising not only keeps a check on your body weight but also boosts your metabolism & keep your skin young.

Save for your future today

Yes, it sounds boring and tedious thing to do, but if you start early, you will thank yourself later and won’t regret the decision. We all have disposable income at this stage of our lives, but having a habit of saving small amounts will keep you future-ready. I paid attention to my credit card bill and realised that I was spending too much for a 30-day credit. I took control of that and started more contribution for investment in the future.

Spend your money on having great experiences

Memories are for life. They make you happy and content. The world is such a beautiful place to explore and learn. Spend your money wisely and cherish your experiences. Make photo blogs/ albums or private journals to keep the memories alive.

Invest in your self-development

Your 30s are very crucial years in your career. You will face highs and lows. Invest time for self-improvement or development. Invest a little to hire a Life Coach or a Career Coach. Attend relevant training & seminars, build your network. Don’t ever be shy talking about your issues. Sort them and learn from them.

I had hired a life coach when I was 32, and it changed my life. I learned a lot when I quit my job last year. Investing in developing your thinking always brings benefits in more ways than you can imagine.

Take care of your hair, skin & teeth

In the mid-30s, talking about your hair, skin and teeth becomes a very common topic. Start taking care of your hair, skin & teeth as soon as you can. Drink a lot of water (I learned that a hard way), take lots of oil-based head massages (They are absolutely the best thing) and keep visiting your dental hygienist if you don’t want a big fat dental bill later in your years.

Indulge with yourself

There’s no right time to discover yourself and understand what makes you truly happy. The earlier you discover your inner voice and follow it, happier you would feel even in the small things. Spending time with yourself can be a very peaceful thing to do, away from the noise of daily routine & virtual life. Do things you like or are passionate about. If you like, you can meditate, focus on yourself and your mind.

Invest time in developing meaningful relationships

You may have a lot of friends from school, college and now on social media. But to keep your inner circle, you need to invest time and energy in those relationships. Be it in the family or with friends. When things go sideways or not according to your plans, you need people in your life who would be there come what may. Choose people who make you feel good about yourself. Nurture relationships, laugh and do silly things too.

Stop worrying about small things

A lot of things happen in life, good and bad. Few things are just out of your control. You can either worry about them and take stress or just leave them be. Remember that it’s your perception that dictates your worry.

Take life as it comes

Every person in this world has highs and lows. Be open to risks, explore new opportunities, career changes, and travel to new places. Take life on an exciting ride. Things will go wrong, be prepared for it, but at the same time, enjoy to the fullest. Flow with the life and you will enjoy the journey.

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Finding Purpose of My Life! 9 Inspirational Statements

I asked myself a lot of hard questions lately. One day a difficult question popped into my head. “What is the Purpose of my life?” I didn’t have an answer so I asked the same question to my husband while having our morning cup of tea.

“Why are you asking such a difficult question?” was his response.

We choose not to start the morning on a heavy note, so we left it unanswered. Later in the day, as I had the luxury of time, I spent the day pondering over this thought and was overwhelmed by the gravity of the question. I started thinking, do I really need a purpose in life? I am neither on any spiritual path nor do I meditate to achieve a zen-like state of mind. Can’t I live my life as it comes?

I am sure there’s much more to life than studying for 15-16 years, working 40-50 hours per week, receiving regular paychecks and paying bills; so that next generation can do the same all over again.

But does that mean I must find life’s purpose?

I started researching about the purpose of life and realised it doesn’t have to be overwhelming and heavy. I imagined, that people with a ready-to-quote their life purpose statement would have an intense statement. I came across several beautiful and inspiring life purpose statements on the internet and a couple through my network, which I am sharing with you.

It’s up to you to decide, if you need a purpose in your life or not. But the fact is, you are given this one life and you could do so much to keep yourself happy, content and fulfilled.

  1. The purpose of life is to discover yourself, discover your surroundings & explore new destinations.
  2. To become our greatest version
  3. To leave a legacy behind – My friend Dr Piyush Roy (Author, Critic, Curator, and Film Scholar) had shared this statement once when we were in a deep conversation about our lives. He has already achieved many awards for his work including a National award. His eternal passion for his work not only inspire his students but also his social circle.
  4. To give love unconditionally and believe that you are worthy of love as well.
  5. To keep learning more and achieve excellence in anything I do while overcoming all obstacles.
  6. The Purpose of life is service – to give to the world more than what I have taken from it.
  7. Purpose of my life is to Teach, Inspire and guide people – Dr Rastogi, a celebrated academician and my father has lived by this mantra all his life. He has won several awards and accolades for his numerous achievements, but his crowning glory comes from the continuous presence of several ex-students in his personal life. Students who once sat in his classroom decades ago and who have built their own successful corporate careers, still maintain personal and social relationships with him, creating an extended family with deep ties. It is reminiscent of the essence of ancient India’s Gurukul Parampara for him, many came as his students but stayed as a family.
  8. To have fun, to not dwell on failures and setbacks and to embrace all the colours of life.
  9. The purpose of life is to do everything with a purpose

Having a purpose in life doesn’t mean that you leave the worldly pleasures or don’t be aspirational and competitive. Purpose brings out the best of your efforts so that you live your life in the happiest, healthiest and the most content way with fewest regrets. An aspiration to be happy comes in different degrees to different people. Some become happy with small achievements, but for some even big achievements don’t bring satisfaction and contentment.

This is a deep & vast topic and someday I would love to revisit this and write more about it. I am happy that I have started thinking and exploring in that direction, in a very normal way, without being spiritual.

What are your thoughts? Have you ever wondered, what is your purpose in life? Do share in the comments box, maybe someone will get inspired by it.