7 Aspects Towards Life Enrichment & Enhancement

A Life Coach gets to meet different personalities, one thing being common in them; they are unique.

Coaching impacts both client and the coach. Both learn valuable lessons in the entire journey. In my life coaching journey, I worked on a framework which covers most of the aspects of leading an enhanced and enriched life.

Everyone wants to extract maximum value from his or her current situation. The desire to do things beyond comfort level and regular boundaries give an adrenal rush. However, routine work, travel, family, social commitments make this difficult to achieve. Many of us, don’t even get to know, what we want, or what our goal or Purpose in life is.

Based on my experience, here are seven aspects which if in control, can make you experience an enhanced and enriched life.

Emotional Intelligence: 

Our emotions are important to us, they are the source of our inner feelings. They push us to take actions. However, emotions can make us behave and act irrationally, which can make other people uncomfortable or detached. That is why we need emotional intelligence.

EI is a set of skills that enable you to recognise and manage emotions, both yours and other people

Many of the decisions including business decisions and choices are made by our feelings. EI empowers you to understand your emotions, fears, strengths, and mental blocks. It creates the pathway to be in control of self, work, personal situations and generates empathy.

Positive Thinking:

Positive Thinking brings a lot of power and energy to self and can be learnt through continuous practice. The positive thinkers are focused and are aware of what they want; they look out for the ways of achieving their goals or making their dreams a reality. They spark energy as they have something to look forward.

Positive thinkers try out various ways to reach their destination and appear confident in achieving their goals.

Ever wondered about people, who can do more and give back to the world with limited resources in hand. They know how to kick in the face of negativity. Keeping a positive nature and thinking can enable empathetic nature and result in taking positive actions in life.

Relationship Wellness: 

Managing relationships are one of the most complicated things. Be it personal relationships or professional ones; one needs to handle the relationship portfolio with care.

An excellent relationship brings joy, happiness, satisfaction and delight. Be it relationship with parents, siblings, life partner, friends, Co-workers or boss, if not managed can bring difficult times to one’s life.

People quit their jobs because of a bad relationship with their bosses or Co-workers. This is one of the top reasons for quitting a job according to the latest surveys. Due to this, they also lose the future opportunities to work with them.

People are loyal to other people or positive experiences than to a brand.

Professional Wellness:

This is a two-way street. When someone takes up an offer from a company, the risk is at both ends. Is the person taking up the job or planning a career in the company? Can the company provide the career, the aspirant wants?

It is important that a person knows what s/he wants out his/ her professional life. It does not have to coincide with the education a person gets neither with what others are doing. Professional decisions are as personal as personal choices are. A person can be happy with an average work/ job or aspire to be at the greatest heights in any field of work.

Once a person internalises emotional intelligence, positive thinking, relationship management; the chances of achieving professional happiness, wellness and balance are much higher.

Financial Wellness:

Money, it makes the world go round whether it is for family, for business, buying a home, taking a vacation or daily purchases. Financial success in the game of life is vital and crucial. Money management is not a daily or a weekly routine. We see the bills at the end of the month or on a due date, and wonder, how did that happen? Due to this many people realise the importance of saving through trial-and-error method, which can be stressful in the long run. Money management is not taught to us anywhere in school or college. Most of us, just learn it by ourselves or through a friend in financial services. Happiness through money is achievable when we give a close look at our money management practices.

Physical Fitness:

Having experience of my own, from the couch to a half marathon runner, I realised and appreciate the benefits of being fit. Exercise is not part of our routine; people take it as a tedious “good to have ” kind of thing. As children, we are not taught, that exercise is as important as dental and personal hygiene. Many people find it’s worth at a much later stage, to either delay the health issues or to fight existing health problems.

Lifelong Learning: 

Finally, the last aspect is – never stop learning. In failures, if a person learns something and not repeat the cause of failure, at the end it is a success. In success, the learning is to hold on to the success mantra. If you observe enough, there are plenty of opportunities to learn from everyday conversations, people you meet, the TV series or a movie you watch, a book you read. Knowledge is power, and it has no bounds to the end.

With these steps and little formable habits, one can feel the difference in the way of life and experience the richness in whatever you do.

What are your thoughts on these aspects? Which one would you like to embrace? Do leave your thoughts in the comments section.

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My Interviews – A series of unfortunate events

Being a Human Resource professional all my working life, I have taken hundreds of interviews for a wide range of mid-level to senior level positions. But after getting interviewed myself, in a prolonged process of the job hunt, I have learnt the many new ground realities.

I remember talking to a candidate in 2004 (being my first job) as part of the screening process. I was not having any clue about which role I was screening him, and I was honest enough to tell him about this. I asked him to just answer the transactional questions before I process him further.

My colleagues overheard and laughed; “why did you tell him that?” He must have felt puzzled.

I can only imagine that candidate’s plight more now than ever. 13 years later, now I am a candidate and most of the time I realise that I am talking to clueless recruiters. The only difference is that most of them don’t even know or realise that they are clueless.

Whether it is a single HR person or the interview panel, a bridge is to be formed by both the stakeholders, the company and the candidate for an effective and satisfying hire. Sitting on the other side of the bridge, I am sharing my story, from a candidate’s perspective.

Interviewer’s interviewing skills

The purpose of the interview is to gather as much information as possible from the candidate in order to judge if s/he will be able to perform well in the given job, or at least s/he has great potential of performing, as ready-made skills may not be available in the fast-changing world of today. In some of my experiences of interview giving, I realised that different levels of interviews are not synchronized. Each interviewer keeps on asking the similar set of questions and often the questions are not even relevant to the job.

I wonder, why many companies don’t invest in getting their interview panel go through an “interviewing training “or build an interviewer capability model, to prepare them for a right selection. Why it is often assumed that people know this skill if they are eligible to hire.

The dilemma of follow up

It’s really a dangerous space I have been in and have seen fellow job hunters in the same situation too. Most of the time the candidates’ deals with a cliff hanger response like, “We will get back to you” or worse “the forever silence” from the interviewing side. Although in many multinational companies it is considered polite to receive a ‘Thank-you’ mail from a candidate; but in the local scenarios the candidate is categorised as “Clingy”. I have considered myself lucky if the interviewer or recruiter has given me a timeline to give a response and stuck to it without my following up. But most of the time, there is some ambiguous response if one follow-up.

To follow or not? This is always a big dilemma for most candidates. They often wonder if the company is worth working if at all they are invited after a long suspense.

The Unexpected Response

After giving 4 to 6 rounds of interviews from junior to senior management levels, all you expect is a genuine feedback rather than a silence, or ambiguous response.

You feel you did great as you talked to the top management with very positive body-language, and discussed the future of the role. I had a long positive discussion with a company’s Board of Director as well and then …………. got the ‘unexpected response’. You hear things like, we don’t have the budget now, your skill sets are not matching, the position has gone on hold (Suddenly!), and there is a change in our business strategy (Overnight!)

Would it be so wrong to get a constructive feedback from the interviewer? Why in professional scenario giving a silence is a form of communicating ‘No’?

Career Break Phobia

A lot of recruiters suffer from this even now, especially in India. Although in most of the developed countries, it is considered healthy to take a break in the career for pursuing passions or further education. But In India, despite having long exposure to MNC culture, still people are judged based on breaks in their careers. While writing this article itself, I got a call from a recruiter and she disconnected the call after learning that I am not working currently. Why is it so wrong? Why the acceptability to have a career break is so low? Especially when the whole world is talking about innovation, thinking differently, developing a passion for performing new challenges, how can one get all these skills when stuck in only routine work day in and out?

The skills or talent gets only refreshed and one gets a new perspective to perform better in newer ways, with breaks. But some people still think such breaks reduce your talent or one unlearns everything one knows about performing a job.

I think India has a long way to go in order to be able to conduct interviews professionally and in an effective way. Fortunately, in some cases, the wheel is turning, but I wish transparent communication and basic courtesies would broaden the horizon in interviewing field.

What have been your experiences? And if you are a hiring manager, suggest how can you help your recruiters/ interviewers?

Looking forward to your responses in the comments section below.