7 Aspects Towards Life Enrichment & Enhancement

A Life Coach gets to meet different personalities, one thing being common in them; they are unique.

Coaching impacts both client and the coach. Both learn valuable lessons in the entire journey. In my life coaching journey, I worked on a framework which covers most of the aspects of leading an enhanced and enriched life.

Everyone wants to extract maximum value from his or her current situation. The desire to do things beyond comfort level and regular boundaries give an adrenal rush. However, routine work, travel, family, social commitments make this difficult to achieve. Many of us, don’t even get to know, what we want, or what our goal or Purpose in life is.

Based on my experience, here are seven aspects which if in control, can make you experience an enhanced and enriched life.

Emotional Intelligence: 

Our emotions are important to us, they are the source of our inner feelings. They push us to take actions. However, emotions can make us behave and act irrationally, which can make other people uncomfortable or detached. That is why we need emotional intelligence.

EI is a set of skills that enable you to recognise and manage emotions, both yours and other people

Many of the decisions including business decisions and choices are made by our feelings. EI empowers you to understand your emotions, fears, strengths, and mental blocks. It creates the pathway to be in control of self, work, personal situations and generates empathy.

Positive Thinking:

Positive Thinking brings a lot of power and energy to self and can be learnt through continuous practice. The positive thinkers are focused and are aware of what they want; they look out for the ways of achieving their goals or making their dreams a reality. They spark energy as they have something to look forward.

Positive thinkers try out various ways to reach their destination and appear confident in achieving their goals.

Ever wondered about people, who can do more and give back to the world with limited resources in hand. They know how to kick in the face of negativity. Keeping a positive nature and thinking can enable empathetic nature and result in taking positive actions in life.

Relationship Wellness: 

Managing relationships are one of the most complicated things. Be it personal relationships or professional ones; one needs to handle the relationship portfolio with care.

An excellent relationship brings joy, happiness, satisfaction and delight. Be it relationship with parents, siblings, life partner, friends, Co-workers or boss, if not managed can bring difficult times to one’s life.

People quit their jobs because of a bad relationship with their bosses or Co-workers. This is one of the top reasons for quitting a job according to the latest surveys. Due to this, they also lose the future opportunities to work with them.

People are loyal to other people or positive experiences than to a brand.

Professional Wellness:

This is a two-way street. When someone takes up an offer from a company, the risk is at both ends. Is the person taking up the job or planning a career in the company? Can the company provide the career, the aspirant wants?

It is important that a person knows what s/he wants out his/ her professional life. It does not have to coincide with the education a person gets neither with what others are doing. Professional decisions are as personal as personal choices are. A person can be happy with an average work/ job or aspire to be at the greatest heights in any field of work.

Once a person internalises emotional intelligence, positive thinking, relationship management; the chances of achieving professional happiness, wellness and balance are much higher.

Financial Wellness:

Money, it makes the world go round whether it is for family, for business, buying a home, taking a vacation or daily purchases. Financial success in the game of life is vital and crucial. Money management is not a daily or a weekly routine. We see the bills at the end of the month or on a due date, and wonder, how did that happen? Due to this many people realise the importance of saving through trial-and-error method, which can be stressful in the long run. Money management is not taught to us anywhere in school or college. Most of us, just learn it by ourselves or through a friend in financial services. Happiness through money is achievable when we give a close look at our money management practices.

Physical Fitness:

Having experience of my own, from the couch to a half marathon runner, I realised and appreciate the benefits of being fit. Exercise is not part of our routine; people take it as a tedious “good to have ” kind of thing. As children, we are not taught, that exercise is as important as dental and personal hygiene. Many people find it’s worth at a much later stage, to either delay the health issues or to fight existing health problems.

Lifelong Learning: 

Finally, the last aspect is – never stop learning. In failures, if a person learns something and not repeat the cause of failure, at the end it is a success. In success, the learning is to hold on to the success mantra. If you observe enough, there are plenty of opportunities to learn from everyday conversations, people you meet, the TV series or a movie you watch, a book you read. Knowledge is power, and it has no bounds to the end.

With these steps and little formable habits, one can feel the difference in the way of life and experience the richness in whatever you do.

What are your thoughts on these aspects? Which one would you like to embrace? Do leave your thoughts in the comments section.

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7 Ways to Stay Motivated to Sustain Your New Year Resolutions

I thought about my New Year Resolutions somewhere in October, Yes that early! You can read all about them here – My New Year Resolutions

At the New Year Eve’s party (house party scenario, I don’t think anyone can hold a conversation in a pub), one of the hot topics of discussion almost always is “what is your new year resolution?”. Sometimes you get well calibrated, genuine answers, but most of the responses are casual and that are usually forgotten the next day.

Not everyone wants the year to end, for changing their lives.

Most common resolutions are the hardest to keep, be it losing weight, getting fit, making financial investments, joining hobby class, changing job or boss, quitting drinking alcohol or quit smoking, etc.

Researchers suggest that 80% of people who make resolutions, don’t sustain them after February. January is the month where everyone is hopeful and happy with the new routine, but then the decline happens gradually. By mid of the year, people tend to forget the “resolutions” and maybe push them for the next year.

This is like short-lived ‘Honeymoon syndrome’. There is thrill and excitement, talking about resolutions, exchanging notes and experiences with the close friends, and making extra efforts to ‘look & feel’ motivated. But soon, the honeymoon is over and people come down to the reality of marriage; find out reasons for not having time to put extra efforts and continue with the routine life.

I am intrigued by the thought of everyone desiring to make the change in their lives which will bring positivity and a feel-good factor. New Year is like a reset button, bringing the hope of a new us. So what blocks us and why don’t we stick to the plan?

Here are 7 simple ways to follow and sustain your resolutions to make positive changes in 2018

Get connected to your resolution: Treat your resolution as a new friend, and get to know the friend better. Ask questions and understand why you need the resolution, are you going to enjoy the benefits thereafter?

If your resolution is to get fit or fitter, ask yourself why you want to get fit? Is it your inner calling or because you have peer pressure? Why are you choosing this time to get fit? Why is it important?

Asking such questions and more will make you believe about the importance and gravity of your resolution, and help in sustaining it.

Make Goal statements: Even though you have resolutions ready, translate them into SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic & Timely) goal statements. Goals can be further divided into small actionable goals and furthermore to specific activities or tasks which would help in achieving those goals in a longer run.

Make your goals accessible and visible to you. I have written my goals on a fancy stationary and have stuck it in the door of my wardrobe, so every day I can visit them in privacy.

Make a plan: This is an important step. Make your own plan, be it your gym routine or your financial planning steps. It’s important to have your own personal plan. Yes, if you must, you may hire a nutritionist or a personal trainer whenever you want to accelerate your progress but until then, trust your own plan.

Make a journal entry/ keep a diary: Journaling is the best way to keep a track of your resolutions and goals. It feels so much better to open up and write about your progress, fears, feelings, plans without getting judged in return. It’s so easy to go back to the day when you started and reminisce about the feelings you had on day 1.

I use journalate.com to keep my dairy private and eco-friendly.

Never say Never: Don’t make over-ambitious goals like, I will never eat chocolate cake again. If you do, it will be very easy to feel demotivated. It’s Ok to eat your favourite food in moderation, once in a while. But when you indulge, make sure you go back to your routine with full energy and zest.

Execute & Reward yourself creatively: Make sure to execute your plan & routine, even if you lose track one day, get up and do it the next day. Reward yourself creatively once you achieve a milestone within your plan, buy that phone or a book or an appointment at your favourite spa, which you have been keeping on hold. You will feel elated and will keep yourself motivated for the next milestone.

It’s Ok to fail at times: Everyone, without any exception in the world, falls through the crack once in a while. Don’t take it as a big hurdle if you also do. Take a deep breath and stick to your plan to move forward. Take help of close family members or friends with whom you feel comfortable. If you still feel stuck, think about hiring a Life Coach to help you through your situation.

Follow these simple tips, and I am sure you will be able to achieve your resolutions and this year will be a different one. Wishing all of you a very Happy New Year.

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New Year Resolution: What do you plan to leave this year?

December is here! Every year, last month of the year goes through an unsaid pressure. Everyone likes to reflect back on their good and bad experiences and memories. Many people also wonder, how come December is here so soon?

The mind starts planning for the next year, and it’s time to make resolutions consciously or subconsciously. Even if you don’t make resolutions formally, the thought always crosses your mind.

Although it is positive to talk about learning and starting new things as a new booster in life, often leaving few things help you detox your mind, body and soul, making you feel fresh and charged up.

So before you start making New Year resolutions, what are you going to leave this year?

Here is my list of few things, I plan to “leave this year”.

Excuses for not getting up early and go for a run: When I was in Hyderabad, I was a regular runner and even completed few half marathons. After moving to Mumbai, I blamed everything here from congestion, pollution to bad roads as an excuse for not running. I do feel guilty at times, especially when my running buddies are doing extremely well with their running goals.

How do I Plan to achieve this:

  • Find a running buddy
  • Make a doable weekly running calendar
  • Enjoy the tracking and measuring improvements in each run
  • Keep running shoes, clothes and accessory ready a night before

Overindulging on Netflix: If there is a contest on the “Number of hour’s people can watch Netflix”, I would be a likely winner. But I don’t want to be a winner in this. I have already started efforts for reducing the hours, thanks to my new interest in writing. But I definitely want to leave this habit much behind and be a laggard in this. This will reduce my passive engagement hours and I can use my energies in more productive activities.

How do I plan to achieve this:

  • Restrict watching Netflix for not more than 2 hours a day (Just like my mom used to assign TV hours in my school/college years)
  • Watch only the chosen new show or in-progress shows
  • No re-runs
  • Write new articles more often
  • Divert the time to other avenues of entertainment – Reading, taking a walk, listening to Audio (including books)

Skipping breakfast: I know many of us are guilty of this. We get so caught up in morning routine that we either skip breakfast or pay very less attention to it. It’s the only meal in which we can and should consume the maximum calories with a good mix of carbs and proteins. I am already making a ready-to-refer plan for my daily breakfast.

How do I plan to achieve this:

  • Make ready-to-refer and visually appealing breakfast list
  • Get up 15-20 minutes early to have time for a mindful and enjoyable breakfast
  • Enjoy the morning calm and time with self or family

Procrastinating on paperwork: We live in a digital world, more now than ever before. Somehow the paperwork does not seem to end, like filling home loan papers or getting a license. I was never good at it, I was always dependent on my husband to do all the paperwork for me. Some of the paperwork is dumped in some drawer and begging for my attention before the notorious due date. I think it’s time to get over this and leave this habit behind for good.

How do I plan to achieve this:

  • Declutter all the paper
  • Make note of due dates/ pending items
  • Ask for help, only in case not able to complete it
  • If possible move paperwork to digital and preserve environment

Emotional Shopping: Some people call it Retail therapy. There are times when I am in a mall and perfectly happy and I don’t feel the need to shop at all. And then there are those times when I am feeling low and things are not going right, I shop till I get a kick in with some materialistic happiness. Post emotional shopping, I do forget about the actual issue I was going through. It would be so great to pay attention and deal with the emotion rather than buying a pair of shoes. Now is the time to deal with it and leave this habit behind.

How do I plan to achieve this:

  • Enjoy the company of a friend instead of shopping
  • Be aware of my emotion and maybe share and discuss it
  • Put my thoughts in a Journal/ Diary
  • Sleep on it for a day to find perspective

I am already feeling detoxed Just by putting my list together. I will be shortly writing about how to quit bad habits and replace them with good ones.

Do share your thoughts as to what are you going to leave behind this year?

 

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