7 Aspects Towards Life Enrichment & Enhancement

A Life Coach gets to meet different personalities, one thing being common in them; they are unique.

Coaching impacts both client and the coach. Both learn valuable lessons in the entire journey. In my life coaching journey, I worked on a framework which covers most of the aspects of leading an enhanced and enriched life.

Everyone wants to extract maximum value from his or her current situation. The desire to do things beyond comfort level and regular boundaries give an adrenal rush. However, routine work, travel, family, social commitments make this difficult to achieve. Many of us, don’t even get to know, what we want, or what our goal or Purpose in life is.

Based on my experience, here are seven aspects which if in control, can make you experience an enhanced and enriched life.

Emotional Intelligence: 

Our emotions are important to us, they are the source of our inner feelings. They push us to take actions. However, emotions can make us behave and act irrationally, which can make other people uncomfortable or detached. That is why we need emotional intelligence.

EI is a set of skills that enable you to recognise and manage emotions, both yours and other people

Many of the decisions including business decisions and choices are made by our feelings. EI empowers you to understand your emotions, fears, strengths, and mental blocks. It creates the pathway to be in control of self, work, personal situations and generates empathy.

Positive Thinking:

Positive Thinking brings a lot of power and energy to self and can be learnt through continuous practice. The positive thinkers are focused and are aware of what they want; they look out for the ways of achieving their goals or making their dreams a reality. They spark energy as they have something to look forward.

Positive thinkers try out various ways to reach their destination and appear confident in achieving their goals.

Ever wondered about people, who can do more and give back to the world with limited resources in hand. They know how to kick in the face of negativity. Keeping a positive nature and thinking can enable empathetic nature and result in taking positive actions in life.

Relationship Wellness: 

Managing relationships are one of the most complicated things. Be it personal relationships or professional ones; one needs to handle the relationship portfolio with care.

An excellent relationship brings joy, happiness, satisfaction and delight. Be it relationship with parents, siblings, life partner, friends, Co-workers or boss, if not managed can bring difficult times to one’s life.

People quit their jobs because of a bad relationship with their bosses or Co-workers. This is one of the top reasons for quitting a job according to the latest surveys. Due to this, they also lose the future opportunities to work with them.

People are loyal to other people or positive experiences than to a brand.

Professional Wellness:

This is a two-way street. When someone takes up an offer from a company, the risk is at both ends. Is the person taking up the job or planning a career in the company? Can the company provide the career, the aspirant wants?

It is important that a person knows what s/he wants out his/ her professional life. It does not have to coincide with the education a person gets neither with what others are doing. Professional decisions are as personal as personal choices are. A person can be happy with an average work/ job or aspire to be at the greatest heights in any field of work.

Once a person internalises emotional intelligence, positive thinking, relationship management; the chances of achieving professional happiness, wellness and balance are much higher.

Financial Wellness:

Money, it makes the world go round whether it is for family, for business, buying a home, taking a vacation or daily purchases. Financial success in the game of life is vital and crucial. Money management is not a daily or a weekly routine. We see the bills at the end of the month or on a due date, and wonder, how did that happen? Due to this many people realise the importance of saving through trial-and-error method, which can be stressful in the long run. Money management is not taught to us anywhere in school or college. Most of us, just learn it by ourselves or through a friend in financial services. Happiness through money is achievable when we give a close look at our money management practices.

Physical Fitness:

Having experience of my own, from the couch to a half marathon runner, I realised and appreciate the benefits of being fit. Exercise is not part of our routine; people take it as a tedious “good to have ” kind of thing. As children, we are not taught, that exercise is as important as dental and personal hygiene. Many people find it’s worth at a much later stage, to either delay the health issues or to fight existing health problems.

Lifelong Learning: 

Finally, the last aspect is – never stop learning. In failures, if a person learns something and not repeat the cause of failure, at the end it is a success. In success, the learning is to hold on to the success mantra. If you observe enough, there are plenty of opportunities to learn from everyday conversations, people you meet, the TV series or a movie you watch, a book you read. Knowledge is power, and it has no bounds to the end.

With these steps and little formable habits, one can feel the difference in the way of life and experience the richness in whatever you do.

What are your thoughts on these aspects? Which one would you like to embrace? Do leave your thoughts in the comments section.

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10 Life Lessons to be Happy & Successful in your 30s

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Last week I celebrated my 36th Birthday. A day before my birthday I told my husband and friends, I don’t want to do anything special this time. Anyway, it comes every year, and it’s like any other day. But on the day of my birthday, I was excited with the thought of being in this beautiful world since last 36 years.

Right from the day of my birth till today, it was a joint effort of so many lovely people, my family, friends, colleagues, managers and a lot of other people, including friends in the virtual world who have made me what I am today.

I felt a sense of gratitude. I looked forward to the day ahead.  I had ample time at home to swim through the memories of my previous birthdays and saw old photos to reminisce them, giving myself strong nostalgia. I realised that I have changed a lot after my 30th birthday and life has made better sense to me than it did in my younger days.

Things I did in my 30s challenged me in a way that my future looks much brighter.

Although there are things to learn each day, I am sharing a few chosen life lessons which made my life far better and balanced. I am sharing those with you, thinking those might benefit you too.

Reduce Unhealthy Habits

We all have our share of unhealthy habits even though we know that they cause permanent harm in exchange for short-lived excitement and intoxication. So while you can save your health getting worsened, try to reduce smoking, drinking alcohol & eating junk food, if not able to quit. I can assure you, you will sleep better and also save money for better things.

Start and Enjoy Exercising

I had started running when I was 32. I never did any exercise or indulged in any sports in my earlier years, so I was glad I picked up running. I have completed few half marathons. I now feel as energetic as I felt at 30. I took a couple of years to incorporate exercise into my daily routine; I am happy I started exercising at the right time if not late. Exercising not only keeps a check on your body weight but also boosts your metabolism & keep your skin young.

Save for your future today

Yes, it sounds boring and tedious thing to do, but if you start early, you will thank yourself later and won’t regret the decision. We all have disposable income at this stage of our lives, but having a habit of saving small amounts will keep you future-ready. I paid attention to my credit card bill and realised that I was spending too much for a 30-day credit. I took control of that and started more contribution for investment in the future.

Spend your money on having great experiences

Memories are for life. They make you happy and content. The world is such a beautiful place to explore and learn. Spend your money wisely and cherish your experiences. Make photo blogs/ albums or private journals to keep the memories alive.

Invest in your self-development

Your 30s are very crucial years in your career. You will face highs and lows. Invest time for self-improvement or development. Invest a little to hire a Life Coach or a Career Coach. Attend relevant training & seminars, build your network. Don’t ever be shy talking about your issues. Sort them and learn from them.

I had hired a life coach when I was 32, and it changed my life. I learned a lot when I quit my job last year. Investing in developing your thinking always brings benefits in more ways than you can imagine.

Take care of your hair, skin & teeth

In the mid-30s, talking about your hair, skin and teeth becomes a very common topic. Start taking care of your hair, skin & teeth as soon as you can. Drink a lot of water (I learned that a hard way), take lots of oil-based head massages (They are absolutely the best thing) and keep visiting your dental hygienist if you don’t want a big fat dental bill later in your years.

Indulge with yourself

There’s no right time to discover yourself and understand what makes you truly happy. The earlier you discover your inner voice and follow it, happier you would feel even in the small things. Spending time with yourself can be a very peaceful thing to do, away from the noise of daily routine & virtual life. Do things you like or are passionate about. If you like, you can meditate, focus on yourself and your mind.

Invest time in developing meaningful relationships

You may have a lot of friends from school, college and now on social media. But to keep your inner circle, you need to invest time and energy in those relationships. Be it in the family or with friends. When things go sideways or not according to your plans, you need people in your life who would be there come what may. Choose people who make you feel good about yourself. Nurture relationships, laugh and do silly things too.

Stop worrying about small things

A lot of things happen in life, good and bad. Few things are just out of your control. You can either worry about them and take stress or just leave them be. Remember that it’s your perception that dictates your worry.

Take life as it comes

Every person in this world has highs and lows. Be open to risks, explore new opportunities, career changes, and travel to new places. Take life on an exciting ride. Things will go wrong, be prepared for it, but at the same time, enjoy to the fullest. Flow with the life and you will enjoy the journey.

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7 Ways to Stay Motivated to Sustain Your New Year Resolutions

I thought about my New Year Resolutions somewhere in October, Yes that early! You can read all about them here – My New Year Resolutions

At the New Year Eve’s party (house party scenario, I don’t think anyone can hold a conversation in a pub), one of the hot topics of discussion almost always is “what is your new year resolution?”. Sometimes you get well calibrated, genuine answers, but most of the responses are casual and that are usually forgotten the next day.

Not everyone wants the year to end, for changing their lives.

Most common resolutions are the hardest to keep, be it losing weight, getting fit, making financial investments, joining hobby class, changing job or boss, quitting drinking alcohol or quit smoking, etc.

Researchers suggest that 80% of people who make resolutions, don’t sustain them after February. January is the month where everyone is hopeful and happy with the new routine, but then the decline happens gradually. By mid of the year, people tend to forget the “resolutions” and maybe push them for the next year.

This is like short-lived ‘Honeymoon syndrome’. There is thrill and excitement, talking about resolutions, exchanging notes and experiences with the close friends, and making extra efforts to ‘look & feel’ motivated. But soon, the honeymoon is over and people come down to the reality of marriage; find out reasons for not having time to put extra efforts and continue with the routine life.

I am intrigued by the thought of everyone desiring to make the change in their lives which will bring positivity and a feel-good factor. New Year is like a reset button, bringing the hope of a new us. So what blocks us and why don’t we stick to the plan?

Here are 7 simple ways to follow and sustain your resolutions to make positive changes in 2018

Get connected to your resolution: Treat your resolution as a new friend, and get to know the friend better. Ask questions and understand why you need the resolution, are you going to enjoy the benefits thereafter?

If your resolution is to get fit or fitter, ask yourself why you want to get fit? Is it your inner calling or because you have peer pressure? Why are you choosing this time to get fit? Why is it important?

Asking such questions and more will make you believe about the importance and gravity of your resolution, and help in sustaining it.

Make Goal statements: Even though you have resolutions ready, translate them into SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic & Timely) goal statements. Goals can be further divided into small actionable goals and furthermore to specific activities or tasks which would help in achieving those goals in a longer run.

Make your goals accessible and visible to you. I have written my goals on a fancy stationary and have stuck it in the door of my wardrobe, so every day I can visit them in privacy.

Make a plan: This is an important step. Make your own plan, be it your gym routine or your financial planning steps. It’s important to have your own personal plan. Yes, if you must, you may hire a nutritionist or a personal trainer whenever you want to accelerate your progress but until then, trust your own plan.

Make a journal entry/ keep a diary: Journaling is the best way to keep a track of your resolutions and goals. It feels so much better to open up and write about your progress, fears, feelings, plans without getting judged in return. It’s so easy to go back to the day when you started and reminisce about the feelings you had on day 1.

I use journalate.com to keep my dairy private and eco-friendly.

Never say Never: Don’t make over-ambitious goals like, I will never eat chocolate cake again. If you do, it will be very easy to feel demotivated. It’s Ok to eat your favourite food in moderation, once in a while. But when you indulge, make sure you go back to your routine with full energy and zest.

Execute & Reward yourself creatively: Make sure to execute your plan & routine, even if you lose track one day, get up and do it the next day. Reward yourself creatively once you achieve a milestone within your plan, buy that phone or a book or an appointment at your favourite spa, which you have been keeping on hold. You will feel elated and will keep yourself motivated for the next milestone.

It’s Ok to fail at times: Everyone, without any exception in the world, falls through the crack once in a while. Don’t take it as a big hurdle if you also do. Take a deep breath and stick to your plan to move forward. Take help of close family members or friends with whom you feel comfortable. If you still feel stuck, think about hiring a Life Coach to help you through your situation.

Follow these simple tips, and I am sure you will be able to achieve your resolutions and this year will be a different one. Wishing all of you a very Happy New Year.

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My Interviews – A series of unfortunate events

Being a Human Resource professional all my working life, I have taken hundreds of interviews for a wide range of mid-level to senior level positions. But after getting interviewed myself, in a prolonged process of the job hunt, I have learnt the many new ground realities.

I remember talking to a candidate in 2004 (being my first job) as part of the screening process. I was not having any clue about which role I was screening him, and I was honest enough to tell him about this. I asked him to just answer the transactional questions before I process him further.

My colleagues overheard and laughed; “why did you tell him that?” He must have felt puzzled.

I can only imagine that candidate’s plight more now than ever. 13 years later, now I am a candidate and most of the time I realise that I am talking to clueless recruiters. The only difference is that most of them don’t even know or realise that they are clueless.

Whether it is a single HR person or the interview panel, a bridge is to be formed by both the stakeholders, the company and the candidate for an effective and satisfying hire. Sitting on the other side of the bridge, I am sharing my story, from a candidate’s perspective.

Interviewer’s interviewing skills

The purpose of the interview is to gather as much information as possible from the candidate in order to judge if s/he will be able to perform well in the given job, or at least s/he has great potential of performing, as ready-made skills may not be available in the fast-changing world of today. In some of my experiences of interview giving, I realised that different levels of interviews are not synchronized. Each interviewer keeps on asking the similar set of questions and often the questions are not even relevant to the job.

I wonder, why many companies don’t invest in getting their interview panel go through an “interviewing training “or build an interviewer capability model, to prepare them for a right selection. Why it is often assumed that people know this skill if they are eligible to hire.

The dilemma of follow up

It’s really a dangerous space I have been in and have seen fellow job hunters in the same situation too. Most of the time the candidates’ deals with a cliff hanger response like, “We will get back to you” or worse “the forever silence” from the interviewing side. Although in many multinational companies it is considered polite to receive a ‘Thank-you’ mail from a candidate; but in the local scenarios the candidate is categorised as “Clingy”. I have considered myself lucky if the interviewer or recruiter has given me a timeline to give a response and stuck to it without my following up. But most of the time, there is some ambiguous response if one follow-up.

To follow or not? This is always a big dilemma for most candidates. They often wonder if the company is worth working if at all they are invited after a long suspense.

The Unexpected Response

After giving 4 to 6 rounds of interviews from junior to senior management levels, all you expect is a genuine feedback rather than a silence, or ambiguous response.

You feel you did great as you talked to the top management with very positive body-language, and discussed the future of the role. I had a long positive discussion with a company’s Board of Director as well and then …………. got the ‘unexpected response’. You hear things like, we don’t have the budget now, your skill sets are not matching, the position has gone on hold (Suddenly!), and there is a change in our business strategy (Overnight!)

Would it be so wrong to get a constructive feedback from the interviewer? Why in professional scenario giving a silence is a form of communicating ‘No’?

Career Break Phobia

A lot of recruiters suffer from this even now, especially in India. Although in most of the developed countries, it is considered healthy to take a break in the career for pursuing passions or further education. But In India, despite having long exposure to MNC culture, still people are judged based on breaks in their careers. While writing this article itself, I got a call from a recruiter and she disconnected the call after learning that I am not working currently. Why is it so wrong? Why the acceptability to have a career break is so low? Especially when the whole world is talking about innovation, thinking differently, developing a passion for performing new challenges, how can one get all these skills when stuck in only routine work day in and out?

The skills or talent gets only refreshed and one gets a new perspective to perform better in newer ways, with breaks. But some people still think such breaks reduce your talent or one unlearns everything one knows about performing a job.

I think India has a long way to go in order to be able to conduct interviews professionally and in an effective way. Fortunately, in some cases, the wheel is turning, but I wish transparent communication and basic courtesies would broaden the horizon in interviewing field.

What have been your experiences? And if you are a hiring manager, suggest how can you help your recruiters/ interviewers?

Looking forward to your responses in the comments section below.

New Year Resolution: What do you plan to leave this year?

December is here! Every year, last month of the year goes through an unsaid pressure. Everyone likes to reflect back on their good and bad experiences and memories. Many people also wonder, how come December is here so soon?

The mind starts planning for the next year, and it’s time to make resolutions consciously or subconsciously. Even if you don’t make resolutions formally, the thought always crosses your mind.

Although it is positive to talk about learning and starting new things as a new booster in life, often leaving few things help you detox your mind, body and soul, making you feel fresh and charged up.

So before you start making New Year resolutions, what are you going to leave this year?

Here is my list of few things, I plan to “leave this year”.

Excuses for not getting up early and go for a run: When I was in Hyderabad, I was a regular runner and even completed few half marathons. After moving to Mumbai, I blamed everything here from congestion, pollution to bad roads as an excuse for not running. I do feel guilty at times, especially when my running buddies are doing extremely well with their running goals.

How do I Plan to achieve this:

  • Find a running buddy
  • Make a doable weekly running calendar
  • Enjoy the tracking and measuring improvements in each run
  • Keep running shoes, clothes and accessory ready a night before

Overindulging on Netflix: If there is a contest on the “Number of hour’s people can watch Netflix”, I would be a likely winner. But I don’t want to be a winner in this. I have already started efforts for reducing the hours, thanks to my new interest in writing. But I definitely want to leave this habit much behind and be a laggard in this. This will reduce my passive engagement hours and I can use my energies in more productive activities.

How do I plan to achieve this:

  • Restrict watching Netflix for not more than 2 hours a day (Just like my mom used to assign TV hours in my school/college years)
  • Watch only the chosen new show or in-progress shows
  • No re-runs
  • Write new articles more often
  • Divert the time to other avenues of entertainment – Reading, taking a walk, listening to Audio (including books)

Skipping breakfast: I know many of us are guilty of this. We get so caught up in morning routine that we either skip breakfast or pay very less attention to it. It’s the only meal in which we can and should consume the maximum calories with a good mix of carbs and proteins. I am already making a ready-to-refer plan for my daily breakfast.

How do I plan to achieve this:

  • Make ready-to-refer and visually appealing breakfast list
  • Get up 15-20 minutes early to have time for a mindful and enjoyable breakfast
  • Enjoy the morning calm and time with self or family

Procrastinating on paperwork: We live in a digital world, more now than ever before. Somehow the paperwork does not seem to end, like filling home loan papers or getting a license. I was never good at it, I was always dependent on my husband to do all the paperwork for me. Some of the paperwork is dumped in some drawer and begging for my attention before the notorious due date. I think it’s time to get over this and leave this habit behind for good.

How do I plan to achieve this:

  • Declutter all the paper
  • Make note of due dates/ pending items
  • Ask for help, only in case not able to complete it
  • If possible move paperwork to digital and preserve environment

Emotional Shopping: Some people call it Retail therapy. There are times when I am in a mall and perfectly happy and I don’t feel the need to shop at all. And then there are those times when I am feeling low and things are not going right, I shop till I get a kick in with some materialistic happiness. Post emotional shopping, I do forget about the actual issue I was going through. It would be so great to pay attention and deal with the emotion rather than buying a pair of shoes. Now is the time to deal with it and leave this habit behind.

How do I plan to achieve this:

  • Enjoy the company of a friend instead of shopping
  • Be aware of my emotion and maybe share and discuss it
  • Put my thoughts in a Journal/ Diary
  • Sleep on it for a day to find perspective

I am already feeling detoxed Just by putting my list together. I will be shortly writing about how to quit bad habits and replace them with good ones.

Do share your thoughts as to what are you going to leave behind this year?

 

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Finding Purpose of My Life! 9 Inspirational Statements

I asked myself a lot of hard questions lately. One day a difficult question popped into my head. “What is the Purpose of my life?” I didn’t have an answer so I asked the same question to my husband while having our morning cup of tea.

“Why are you asking such a difficult question?” was his response.

We choose not to start the morning on a heavy note, so we left it unanswered. Later in the day, as I had the luxury of time, I spent the day pondering over this thought and was overwhelmed by the gravity of the question. I started thinking, do I really need a purpose in life? I am neither on any spiritual path nor do I meditate to achieve a zen-like state of mind. Can’t I live my life as it comes?

I am sure there’s much more to life than studying for 15-16 years, working 40-50 hours per week, receiving regular paychecks and paying bills; so that next generation can do the same all over again.

But does that mean I must find life’s purpose?

I started researching about the purpose of life and realised it doesn’t have to be overwhelming and heavy. I imagined, that people with a ready-to-quote their life purpose statement would have an intense statement. I came across several beautiful and inspiring life purpose statements on the internet and a couple through my network, which I am sharing with you.

It’s up to you to decide, if you need a purpose in your life or not. But the fact is, you are given this one life and you could do so much to keep yourself happy, content and fulfilled.

  1. The purpose of life is to discover yourself, discover your surroundings & explore new destinations.
  2. To become our greatest version
  3. To leave a legacy behind – My friend Dr Piyush Roy (Author, Critic, Curator, and Film Scholar) had shared this statement once when we were in a deep conversation about our lives. He has already achieved many awards for his work including a National award. His eternal passion for his work not only inspire his students but also his social circle.
  4. To give love unconditionally and believe that you are worthy of love as well.
  5. To keep learning more and achieve excellence in anything I do while overcoming all obstacles.
  6. The Purpose of life is service – to give to the world more than what I have taken from it.
  7. Purpose of my life is to Teach, Inspire and guide people – Dr Rastogi, a celebrated academician and my father has lived by this mantra all his life. He has won several awards and accolades for his numerous achievements, but his crowning glory comes from the continuous presence of several ex-students in his personal life. Students who once sat in his classroom decades ago and who have built their own successful corporate careers, still maintain personal and social relationships with him, creating an extended family with deep ties. It is reminiscent of the essence of ancient India’s Gurukul Parampara for him, many came as his students but stayed as a family.
  8. To have fun, to not dwell on failures and setbacks and to embrace all the colours of life.
  9. The purpose of life is to do everything with a purpose

Having a purpose in life doesn’t mean that you leave the worldly pleasures or don’t be aspirational and competitive. Purpose brings out the best of your efforts so that you live your life in the happiest, healthiest and the most content way with fewest regrets. An aspiration to be happy comes in different degrees to different people. Some become happy with small achievements, but for some even big achievements don’t bring satisfaction and contentment.

This is a deep & vast topic and someday I would love to revisit this and write more about it. I am happy that I have started thinking and exploring in that direction, in a very normal way, without being spiritual.

What are your thoughts? Have you ever wondered, what is your purpose in life? Do share in the comments box, maybe someone will get inspired by it.

 

 

Things I Learnt after quitting my job!

Last year in December, I moved to Mumbai for the 3rd time in my life. I was excited and nervous at the same time. One big change in my new life was I had quit my thriving and secure job. I was walking into the big unknown. But with no rush to get back to the corporate grind, I did enjoy some leisure time, before I started getting fidgety to have some purpose back in my life.

A year later to present day it has been a rollercoaster ride! This time and opportunity to be with myself helped me ask myself some hard questions about possibilities, opportunities, and life itself. When I look back now, I feel happy that I left the routine corporate job & don’t regret my decision.

Here’s why:

Grateful for “Getting Time”

The first thing you gain after you quit your job is “Time”. The number one excuse for not doing something or not able to meet people is ‘time’. Most of the hours go by commuting and the office hours.

I had parked so many important things in life all these years or paid far less attention to those. But in last 12 months, I could accomplish so much for myself. I started reading books, writing my journal, going to the gym, eating healthy, indulging in several DIYs, learnt a new musical instrument, binge-watched TV series, interacted with friends, family members and so much more. I never felt so content with the quality of time spent on all these to provide me a better quality of life.

If you ever are in such situation, there is a lot to gain on the other side.

You understand your emotions better

I never paid attention to understand my own emotions. I left those uncontrolled and allowed them to dictate my behaviour in most of the situations. In pursuit of finding the perfect job, I experienced various emotions. Sometimes coming too close to getting an offer for a job, I may have once wanted or just experiencing sheer flatness of the process. As I was journaling my days and my emotions, I got more aware of them. Now after all these months, I am able to keep my calm and have a way to handle negative energies without stress.

It’s not all that scary to be out of job

The thought of leaving well settled and secured job was fearful. But very quickly I came back into the track, I started depending on my own capabilities and skills. I made myself aware of areas where I can improve upon and started working on enhancing my skills. I realized that being secure is a state-of-mind because job cuts do happen, the management changes, companies fail. It’s more reassuring to be self-reliant.

Don’t let fear and insecurity cloud you from continuously improving and looking for new possibilities, especially in the area of your real interest.

You understand & respect Money

When I used to get my steady monthly income, I never thought twice about spending it, especially on things I didn’t need. I would say after this awakening, I have become judicious in my spending, I can sometimes feel like a borderline minimalistic. It turns out that, it is not too difficult to cut down on few luxuries, and trust me you will live comfortably. This has made me cautious and aware of my money management techniques. I think your spending habits adjust to your earnings, and once the earnings get back on your set goal the luxuries can barge in again.

So focus your expenditure on getting good life experiences, travel, workshops for learning & making new friends. This is the best opportunity to get rid of unnecessary material clutter.

The possibilities are endless

Once I got my first job that too in a big MNC, 13 years ago I thought this is it. I have entered the corporate world and here I will be always. In last 12 months, I got a new perspective and my mind has been a big creative hub throwing all sorts of ideas. Not all ideas were great, but some were definitely worth exploring. I spent a lot of time reading and knowing what kind of possibilities exist, it’s overwhelming to see the kind of opportunities available in this world.

A lot of people are taking that leap of faith and following their dreams, and in whichever area they enjoy, excel or trying to excel.

All you have to do is have an open mind and flexibility and you will be surprised to see the possibilities available to you.

You are more than your job title

When asked to introduce ourselves, many of us start telling our job titles, little realizing that our job is not who we are, it’s just what we do. Although it does help a little in defining you. After quitting, I never really prepared my answer to “what are you doing?” asked casually by people around. I got startled, even froze to that question. Somehow I was trying to explain my employment situation to others to give myself a sense of identity and purpose. I later realized that I was pressurizing myself into it while people around me really didn’t bother much. Those who judged me on this are anyway no longer in my life. I took the path of self-discovery and found so much to myself than my title and there are many people who are doing the same finding their own path.

Don’t be afraid to confront yourself and know who you really are, and other dimensions of your inner self.

More & more of self-reflection

I used to shush that sane voice coming from within. I buried myself in work and routines of life and paid little attention to good advice coming after some reflections. After quitting, I had no choice but to listen to that voice and in my ample “Me-Time” I had so much of self-realization, reflection, and contemplation that I must admit I thought why I did not do this earlier. Of course, it’s not impossible for you to have self-reflection, but it’s easier when you are in ease of time and not hurrying into the 9-5 (actually 8-8 in metros) and late hours.

Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes…

Including you – Anne Lamott

So!!!

You have 2 choices, either do nothing or do it without fear of failure

Yes, I could have lived spending my time on fun activities, thinking this time as a well-deserved break. To think about it, even doing nothing is not that simple.

In this journey, I have met so many people who have left their secured life and found their real passion and now they are pursuing their profession which gives them contentment and happiness. Even though some of my brilliant ideas failed and some did not even take off after a phone call, I am keeping my positive energy and learnings for me to excel.

If you have a dream you want to pursue & if you ever contemplate in taking that leap of faith. Don’t worry! The other side of yours will let you make your own adjustments and your passion will pull you through the unknown. Mine has!

I know, this has been a long read, but if you are still here, I would love to learn your views on this, please do share in the comments box.